Need advise on how to make my 5 year old child be good.?
Jeudi, juillet 31st, 2008You should first decide what behaviors you are most wanting to encourage. Then sit down with your child and make a list. Do it with her.
Then decide on what rewards you can offer her as incentives (ie. stickers, colouring books - I use mainly stationery instead of edibles, but you can use edibles if you choose to).
Make a chart and put it on the fridge where she can see it.
Each day, sit down together and reward her for the things she has accomplished.
In the beginning you will need to reward instantly. Then start delayed gratification after she has done some things right.
The secret is to catch her doing things right.
I know, sometimes it can be really hard. But as soon as you see something great, pounce on it immediately, before she has a chance to do something naughty.
Then you need to persevere with this. Stick with it for a month at least. Talk to her for a couple of minutes every day and tell her how wonderful she is for all the good things she has done that particular day.
Tell her that she should be proud of her behavior (in preference to you being proud of her). Ultimately, we want our kids to achieve in life for their own self not for us.
Good luck.